I go to the gym as much to get my cable TV fix as to exercise, and the other night I thoroughly enjoyed an interview segment with Daniel Handler on The Rachel Maddow Show. Better known as Lemony Snicket, Handler is one of the writers who have posted original work on OccupyWriters.com. Called Thirteen Observations made by Lemony Snicket while watching Occupy Wall Street from a Discreet Distance, I found the piece to be amusing, and on target.
In the TV interview, Handler reflected on the point of view that we’ve heard from some anti-Occupy Wall Street’ers that ‘I’m successful because I worked hard.’ Around his house, Handler said, they talk about luck when counting their blessings. They’re lucky that they have a nice home, lucky to have had the opportunities that they’ve had, etc.
While I appreciate Handler’s humility, and his recognition of the universe’s powerful forces at work, I think that there is one really important aspect that he failed to mention when it comes to success: other people always help us to get there. It goes way beyond luck and hard work.
So, to the folks who say they worked hard to get to where they are (with the implication being that others who are less successful haven’t worked as hard and therefore, they should not have to share with them), I understand that. I believe that you worked hard. But please don’t forget to acknowledge the contributions of all those in your lives who also played a role, big or small.
I don’t believe that anyone got to their post in life all on their own. There were likely teachers who worked overtime (for no extra pay), or the friend’s mom who drove you to practices or auditions. How about the person who told you to keep going when you were feeling doubtful? Or the work colleague who guided your development so that you could get the promotion? Or your parents?
When you’re hearing cries from Occupy Wall Street and beyond, think about this. If the idea of wealth redistribution makes you uncomfortable or angry, given that you’ve worked so hard for what you’ve got, then I’ve got another idea. How about the pay-it-forward perspective? No, seriously! Just try it on for a minute!
Pay it forward because someone did the same for you, when you were trying to get ahead. Pay it forward because no (wo)man is an island. Pay it forward because you didn’t get to where you are all by yourself. You worked hard, you had some luck, and you had a lot of help and support. The Occupy Wall Street movement—the changes that are in the air and on the ground—are giving you the perfect opportunity to find a way to honor those who played a part in your success.
I think pay-it-forward is a great approach. In addition, I also get my cable fix at the gym, although I tend to tune in to sportscenter. 😉
Oh, I've been known to watch Channel 99 (CBC) when the Canucks are playing. Playoff games make for extra long workouts. Thanks for your comment, Heidi!
Such grace and common sense. Where do you think you're gonna get with that? 😉 It's often hard to remember we stand on the shoulders of those who have come before us. Sometimes, I think the higher you are, the harder it is to see the long line beneath you.
So true, Jessa, and a very long line it can be. For those who are 'really high up' and yet who still remember that long line, that is *truly* grace. Thanks for your comment!
It's hard work and team effort and luck – being in the right place at the right time – that helps people succeed.
I think people like to imagine "I did it all myself" because it gives them a (false) sense of power and control. I met a man who's part of the local Occupy movement. Well-educated, had a great-paying job – until he was hit by a drunk driver, and is now partially disabled. He can't work for 70 hours a week like he used to, or even 40. It's arrogant and ignorant to suggest that people should just "try harder."
People should be able to work in balance with other interests – family, hobbies, community activities – and still be able to make a decent living. If mental or physical illness or disability strikes a family, it should not have to become homeless, or nearly so, before receiving help. The idea that everyone wants to be rich – not really true.
Hello Writing Goddess! Thanks for stopping by! And I totally get what you're saying. I come from Canada originally, where we have public health care. Since I've been in the U.S., I have been painfully aware (and sometimes nervous for myself) of the way that life can change in an instant here due to illness or accident and the way that the health/medical/insurance system operates. It can happen to anyone, and *has* happened to a lot of people, like the fellow that you mentioned. My wish is that making that decent living doesn't feel so much like walking a tightrope for so many people!
Wonderfully written,isightful connection you've made to the occupiers. Your words can potentially touch everyone at an emotional level – that's what makes it so good!
Kendall, thank you, your kind words mean a lot, and what's even more lovely is that I think the same of your writing! 🙂
Ha, ha. I also get my cable fix at the gym! But seriously…I agree that no one becomes successful on their own, and some are luckier than others at getting assistance. There are many ways to "pay it forward," and we can all play a role in that.
Thanks, Diane! And people would also feel so much better about themselves, too. Giving triggers something 'endorphin-like,' so there's a healthy side benefit!
Nice thoughts Laura.
Thank you, Mayank, and thanks for visiting my blog!
I found this to be a very thoughtful and balanced post. Kudos to your ability to present multiple sides of an issue that seems hopelessly steeped in varying shades of gray.
Thanks, Christopher. I appreciate your kind words.